Wednesday, 27 October 2021

People Need Love


This last week I have had a bit of a dilemma to face and now I have a confession to make. 

An elderly friend was feeling extremely lonely and depressed and was in desperate need of having some human-to-human contact, so I visited her for a couple of hours.

We maintained social distancing and we have both been fully vaccinated, but under our current lockdown restrictions it could be argued that I was guilty of Civil Disobedience.

This lady has children who live outside our restricted area and so they have been unable to personally visit her.  She was anxious and worried about how Covid in the future was going to affect both her and her loved ones.  I hope I was able to allay her fears a little.

Our little garden beside the driveway

Under Level 3 we are allowed to extend our household bubble to include one other vulnerable person, and we have already done that with a vulnerable family member.  We are not meant to have contact with anyone else.

However, today it was announced that the Waikato area would have its lockdown restrictions reduced to the same level as the Auckland area (who have ten times the number of daily cases that we are getting). 

This means that two household bubbles can now meet together outdoors with social distancing.  We are also now allowed to go hunting, fishing, scuba diving etc. (not that I would want to!!), so from tomorrow my visit would probably have been alright.

I made a decision that I will not turn my back on family or friends who are having mental health issues because of Covid lockdowns.  Not everyone wants to call Helpline, and when someone needs my help I will give it in any way that I can.

Surely, as sensible adults, we can take the proper precautions and be there to help each other when needed.

Take care,



  1. I understand, we were in a bubble with our daughter last winter. Our disabled grandson was under 5 so it was allowed, but we had an elderly neighbour whose daughter would not visit her, I phoned most days but once she was so upset, I went over and chatted with her. Face to face is the only answer.

  2. There are regulations and there is sensible application of regulations. These rules are about keeping people well, alive, healthy and not overloading the health system.... and what you did was to keep someone well, alive, healthy and reduce demand for health system mental health services (which are probably under supplied at the best of times. Good on you we say. xxx Mr T and F

  3. It's always a judgement call, I suppose.

  4. I would have done the same as you :) B x

  5. Thank You for defying the STUPID Rules!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I beg to differ with some... The Rules are _not_ to keep people well. They are to continue tight control over the population. And no matter what happens... How many cases go "down'... They will never be fully removed.

    If Governments wanted citizens to be well, they would allow, push even, the use of cheap meds, which help people get over China/Covid. Not JUST push "The Jab."

    Only brave people, doing what their soul tells them to do, will counter the Dranconian "Rules".


  6. Do what you have to and what you need to do. You know that you aren't spreading the virus but a bit of fellow feeling

  7. Thank goodness for common sense and I'm glad you went to visit. Civil Disobedience? For goodness sake!
    For a change I'm glad I live in the damp gloomy UK!

  8. You did the right thing...there is no replacing person to person talking and visiting and helping.

  9. Civil Disobedience - oh my, I think kindhearted is the best description! She's lucky to have a friend like you! Mary

  10. I definitely would have done what you did, in fact while we were under heavy restrictions I did. On more than one occasion. You did the right thing.

  11. You are a good friend, common sense can prevail!

  12. I've done something similar when we were at L3, Margaret. "Be kind" is just a load of BS if we can't care for each other. I hope your friend is doing OK now.

  13. Oh I’m so glad you went and visited.
    Kindness always trumps civil laws
    It’s not like you had a party and invited sixty people
    Which did happen a number of times while we were in lockdown
    Causing numbers to shoot up and kept us locked down longer.
    Those people I wanted to pat on the head, with a shovel


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