Yesterday I was speaking to an elderly aunt, who not long ago lost her husband of fifty-nine years, and she had been told she must write “single” down as her marital status. She does not regard herself as “single” and fully intends to continue using her husband’s surname and not revert to her maiden name.
I had a similar experience after my husband died – I wrote “widow” on an official form and was told I had to write “wife” or “single.” I don’t consider myself to be in either of those categories, so I insisted on writing widow – the official who took my form carefully wrote “wife” after my widow so that I became a “widow wife”!!
|The church where I was married in 1973|
When did the term widow become an unmentionable word? I know “spinster” is not fashionable (they seem to be called bachelorettes nowadays), and anyway, they can call themselves unmarried. But what word is used to replace widow?
When asked our marital status we are allowed to put separated, divorced, married, unmarried, de facto – why not widowed?
It all seems a bit of ridiculous “politically correct” officialdom to me, and so I will continue to call myself a WIDOW!
What do you think?