tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post5539268957404730520..comments2024-03-24T14:27:28.526+13:00Comments on Life In New Zealand: What Is A Widow?At Home In New Zealandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12835971617944752730noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-55805552636202134702021-07-02T06:29:09.971+12:002021-07-02T06:29:09.971+12:00I think widow is a sad term but necessary:(I think widow is a sad term but necessary:(Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-72889172690436081532021-06-27T02:55:37.654+12:002021-06-27T02:55:37.654+12:00De acuerdo contigo, si eres viuda es lo normal que...De acuerdo contigo, si eres viuda es lo normal que se tiene que poner.... viuda. Besos.Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02402717341051324422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-8525955987965692082021-06-25T22:51:24.477+12:002021-06-25T22:51:24.477+12:00I too sometimes find (on online surveys, mainly) t...I too sometimes find (on online surveys, mainly) that 'single' is my only option - don't like it one bit as it ignores 43 years of my life, in effect, as you have encountered. <br />We were married in '74, and I know what you are 'saying' about wondering what you would find when you got home after being out! - it was a ghastly time.<br />Thankfully I have had my vaccination(s), but for all that I still 'scan' into shops etc<br />Stay safe<br />Blessings<br />Maxinekiwimeskreationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03001838083285721377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-88551535430222271932021-06-25T21:00:56.451+12:002021-06-25T21:00:56.451+12:00I agree with you. The person has been married and ...I agree with you. The person has been married and continues to have a marital status, widow is the right word for it. Here we can use widow and keep our marital name.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01371884515613303453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-47268006425143249642021-06-25T12:13:07.457+12:002021-06-25T12:13:07.457+12:00It would certainly reduce the current stress, but ...It would certainly reduce the current stress, but I"m grateful our health boffins got hold of the Pfizer vaccine, and, as long as we dodge the bullet again, we should be OK until enough doses arrive. One of our problems is that we're so small we just have no clout when it comes to commercial deals, as any business is going to prioritise an American or European order ahead of us. That's the cold reality. Virginiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06864657381173674455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-38448947043307610112021-06-25T10:34:35.681+12:002021-06-25T10:34:35.681+12:00I had not heard of that - widow is the logical ter...I had not heard of that - widow is the logical term.Susan Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14400003572211042194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-38496672577632537472021-06-25T05:27:32.501+12:002021-06-25T05:27:32.501+12:00I think you should keep writing 'widow' in...I think you should keep writing 'widow' in spite of any pressure to do otherwise.Granny Marigoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15858237999602347848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-21436083891668411042021-06-25T03:15:24.612+12:002021-06-25T03:15:24.612+12:00How strange - widow still appears on forms to tick...How strange - widow still appears on forms to tick the box over here - thankfully - as I'm certainly NOT married or single. I guess I'll be ticking the Widow box for many years as the thought of living with anyone again after 38 happy years just doesn't appeal at all.Sue in Suffolkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166036914348424622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-87757090593151639002021-06-25T02:59:04.590+12:002021-06-25T02:59:04.590+12:00I think the whole world of official Terms, has &qu...I think the whole world of official Terms, has "gone to Hell in a handbasket!"<br /><br />What with all the *Woke* people, going around and waving and screaming, about this and that.<br /><br />The perfectly logical term of Widow, might be one of the results of all this *Weird Silliness.*<br /><br />Keep right on calling yourself, what you choose! Beside a babbling brook...https://www.blogger.com/profile/14230422491225783790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-34604489361874898902021-06-25T01:20:21.339+12:002021-06-25T01:20:21.339+12:00I was bemused recently when helping my elderly fat...I was bemused recently when helping my elderly father-in-law fill in some official forms which didn't list widower as a option, so we had to choose widow. As an 87 year old male I don't think he is going to be changing sex any time soon!Tracynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-73713767505288593012021-06-24T23:32:26.326+12:002021-06-24T23:32:26.326+12:00Widow seems perfectly fine to me and it's hard...Widow seems perfectly fine to me and it's hard to imagine it wouldn't be acceptable. I have been a widower, and I can't remember ever being flummoxed about what to write on a form, but I doubt that I ever would have used the teem "widower". I have to say, however, it would not have mattered one iota to me in any case! I was not then, nor am now, caught up in semantics of this nature.David M. Gascoigne,https://www.blogger.com/profile/17229638811027153569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-74689428584550038632021-06-24T23:24:43.681+12:002021-06-24T23:24:43.681+12:00I haven’t heard of that debate in Canada but I am ...I haven’t heard of that debate in Canada but I am out of the loop. What is wrong with the term widow? Who is it offending? I’m happy not to be “woke.”Marie Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03882722634065183364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-13795360326408347902021-06-24T22:51:03.748+12:002021-06-24T22:51:03.748+12:00I really dislike how they are changing titles and ...I really dislike how they are changing titles and making them modern, when there is no need. In UK we have loads of American terms now, my biggest hate is Mothers day, when it always was Mothering Sunday, the change of name is removing this history of the day. Poppypatchworkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749159567150084975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-11139581976479646282021-06-24T21:40:57.963+12:002021-06-24T21:40:57.963+12:00I agree Sarah, it does make it seem like that.I agree Sarah, it does make it seem like that.At Home In New Zealandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835971617944752730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-63065233735862538022021-06-24T21:39:10.480+12:002021-06-24T21:39:10.480+12:00I'd feel happier if we had had our vaccines by...I'd feel happier if we had had our vaccines by now :)At Home In New Zealandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835971617944752730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-37170774093378417932021-06-24T21:36:16.274+12:002021-06-24T21:36:16.274+12:00I know that feeling Iris. Every time I came home ...I know that feeling Iris. Every time I came home I used to wonder what I was going to find. It is an awful fear to have. Hugz xxAt Home In New Zealandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835971617944752730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-22670625722648741722021-06-24T21:35:13.421+12:002021-06-24T21:35:13.421+12:00I worked for a while for a solicitor - married wom...I worked for a while for a solicitor - married women were referred to in documents as "et ux" (meaning a named man and his unidentified wife). At least that seems to have gone by the way now.At Home In New Zealandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835971617944752730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-60883454674491318702021-06-24T20:53:31.717+12:002021-06-24T20:53:31.717+12:00Margaret, I'm horrified! That's ridiculous...Margaret, I'm horrified! That's ridiculous. For Goodness sake, you can put any combination of male/female/trans/etc/etc ...so WHY would anyone think you can't put widow? I would be objecting too! For a country that's usually so PC, I find that objectionable. I'm praying we'e not in for a wider Covid outbreak - it's all a bit scary, isn't it. Virginiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06864657381173674455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-4391538337899928802021-06-24T20:32:47.115+12:002021-06-24T20:32:47.115+12:00Single?! How cruel is that. Widow is as ... sad, s...Single?! How cruel is that. Widow is as ... sad, so very sad and cruel.<br />Life should be nicer.<br />Big hugs from here, I know this does not help, but believe me... I sadly know what you´re in. A bit.<br />Chronically sick Hubby I have, so... the fear is around all the time.<br />Nice you ended with a 😊Iris Flaviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11147576380055530230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-29188762229933666332021-06-24T19:30:51.669+12:002021-06-24T19:30:51.669+12:00Agree whole-heartedly that 'widowed' could...Agree whole-heartedly that 'widowed' could be added to that list of statuses (is that a word?) you have at the end. When I started practising law, some Land Registry documents still recorded 'single' women as 'femme sole'. I suppose it sounds more elegant than spinster.Tigger's Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15829665785202495073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1067146400874135525.post-51980636670918787812021-06-24T19:22:11.429+12:002021-06-24T19:22:11.429+12:00Hi there, I am a widow of many years, my husband d...Hi there, I am a widow of many years, my husband died young, I always put Widow on official forms, no problem as far as I am aware. I’m in the UK. Don’t consider myself single, I have family and family responsibilities. Not being allowed to call yourself a Widow is denying that your husband ever existed. Sarah.Sarah Brownenoreply@blogger.com